Monday, April 23, 2012
Forgiveness: The Hardest Thing
3:22 pm cdt
"Sorry seems to be the hardest word", says the Elton John song. I'm not sure I agree. I think "I
forgive you" might be harder than "I'm sorry".
Recently at lunch, a friend got an interesting fortune
in her fortune cookie:
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.
As it happened, we had just been talking about someone who did something really underhanded to an organization
I worked for 20 years ago. In telling the story, it was clear how angry I still was.
My friend had heard
me holding forth about the power of tapping earlier in the lunch (ok, I do tend to "hold forth"!). She challenged
me, rightly, to use my tapping to get rid of this 20 year old emotional reaction on which I was still stuck.
laid the fortune out in front of me, and I read it again: Forgiveness enlarges the future.
Many of the ways
of thinking of the power of forgiveness just never seemed to hit home for me.
But when I thought about forgiveness
enlarging the future, I saw it in a new way. By taking the focus from the past, and putting it into the future, forgiveness
became not an act for cleaning up the squalor of the past but a tool for creating and shaping a more spacious future.
Taking this view, I could look constructively down the road ahead of me instead of peering resentfully in the
I'm inspired to enlarge my future, now! How about you?
fortune-cookie quote, as best I can tell from Google, comes from a 16th century Dutch botanist, Paul Boese. He's also
credited with another pithy saying: “We come into this world head first and go out feet first; in between, it is all a matter of balance.”
Thursday, April 12, 2012
11:29 am cdt
I'm enjoying the book Out of Our Minds: Learning to Be Creative
, by education expert Sir Ken Robinson
, a noted lecturer and author on both education and creativity.
Ken relates "creativity" to not
only "the arts", but also everyday life. We can be creative in our relationships, our work, our play--we don't
need to be painters, writers, singers or dancers to consider ourselves creative.
And we can be creative about our
futures. Ken points out how powerful our imaginations are:
"We may not be able to predict the future
but by acting on the ideas produced in our imagination, we can help to create it. The imagination liberates us from
our immediate circumstances and holds the constant possibility of transforming the present."
says, is a step beyond just imagining things. "Private imaginings may have no outcomes in the world at all.
Creativity does. Being creative involves doing
Isn't it an exciting thought?
We can imagine how we want our future to be. We can do something with that imagining. We can
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