Wednesday, December 28, 2011
New Clothes for the Soul
5:36 pm cst
While shopping for clothes this week, I was reminded of the particular magic that happens when we step into a fitting
room with clothing we think we might like. There's that moment when you shed the old clothes you came in with and slip,
wiggle or shimmy into something new--the moment when a change seems possible.
A new look seems
to give us a new perspective on ourselves. Who am I, dressed this way? Where would I wear this? What adventures
might I have, that I am quite certain I won't be having in my old clothes? It's ephemeral, to be sure, but the possibility
of being someone new--someone newly clothed--gleams there in the fitting room.
It's less about what you
see in the mirror than it is about what you'd like to be.
Isn't it very similar to searching for inner
change? Some of us (guilty!) are seekers after spiritual growth. We like to find new methods of looking within
and learning about ourselves. We may try them on. Some inner growth practices "stick" and
become like our favorite outfits. Some end up in the corner near the unused exercise equipment.
In the end,
just as with our clothes, it's not the form of the practice that makes us new or better. It's the fact of looking within,
sitting with ourselves, and bringing light to the darkness.
Some days prayer and meditation does it for me. Other days, exercise, and of course, most days tapping
opens up areas that seemed blocked or stagnant. The point is not which method I use to grow; the point is my intention
to grow. That's where the seed is planted, watered, and nurtured.
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Who doesn't want more wellbeing?
10:03 am cst
Monday, December 12, 2011
Part of Me, All of Me
10:53 am cst
Have you ever been mulling over a problem, and said to yourself or someone else, "Part of me wants ...., but another
part of me feels like......"? We commonly recognize that we function with conflicting desires, impulses, needs
and "shoulds" or "musts." It's like we're ruled by committee--and we know what that means!
you want to get your "committee" functioning together as a team, you'll need to acknowledge those parts. Just
like with a group of people, if one part feels disempowered or disenfranchised, there can be trouble. We can really
sabotage ourselves. From Transactional Analysis to NLP, many theoretical frameworks have been developed to help us integrate
these parts into a better-functioning whole.
A really elegant example of how you can use EFT to do this is
in Masha Bennett's article
on EFTfree.net. You can also visit Masha's website
, beautifully named Practical Happiness, to learn more about her work.
Have you ever had an imaginary conversation
with these "parts" of yourself that led to insight and better functioning? I'd love to know about it!
Saturday, December 10, 2011
I Lost My Driver's License
7:45 am cst
Do you know that feeling, when you open your wallet for something and discover that a credit card or other important item
is missing? If you don't, lucky you! Unfortunately, it's happened to me more than once.
The other day
I fished out a credit card and noticed that my driver's license was missing. Horrors! I couldn't remember when
I'd last used it. I'd just been traveling and my heart sank at the thought I'd left it with a merchant on my trip.
As soon as I got to my car, I tapped. I didn't use a set up, but instead gave myself instructions to remember
where I'd last pulled out my license, and set an intention that everything would turn out ok.
About 15 minutes
later, driving home, I recalled that I'd used my license at the drive-in window of my bank a few days earlier, and must
have forgotten to retrieve it from the vacuum tube. Sure enough, I went back to bank and they retrieved my driver's
license--from a small stack of forgotten licenses ; ).
I love how EFT comes to the rescue in small, as well as
large, ways. For another story of using EFT to find a lost item, read this.
Do you have a story of using EFT to help you find or remember something?
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
11:10 am cst
"Our lives are the infancy of our immortality"--Goethe
There are lots of quips and complaints about
getting old. And yet, almost everyone seems to think it's preferable to the alternative. One concern that people
voice, either in old age or while contemplating it, is the loss of relevance, the loss of self-sufficiency.
you can't put yourself in that place yet, consider the joke I got by email today:
A senior citizen said to his eighty-year old buddy:
'So I hear you're getting married?'
'Do I know her?'
'This woman, is she good looking?'
'Is she a good cook?'
'Naw, she can't
cook too well.'
'Does she have lots of
'Nope! Poor as a church mouse.'
'Why in the world do you want to marry
'Because she can still
We often lose the ability to do many of the activities that gave meaning to our lives for so many
years. Or we may be helping elder friends or parents cope with the loss of these. How do we help ourselves, or
our family members, learn a "new job" in old age? What is the value of our lives in the last act of our personal
Susan Abel Lieberman with Y Collaborative helps people address these issues. Her new book, Getting Old Is A Full Time Job: Moving on From a Life of Working Hard, helps us explore opportunities to "become more fully ourselves, with joy, release and revitalization".
And we can use tapping to help. Here's a lovely blog post on EFT & Aging With Grace.
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
EFT for on the spot relief
EFT is so often talked about for its use to resolve deep emotional issues, trauma and life-limiting beliefs that we sometime
forget about how utilitarian it can be. I had the chance to help three people see how EFT can be used quickly to relieve
symptoms of pain and illness, while we're on the go.
8:32 am cst
We were at a horse show, which always entails lots
of physical and mental work on the part of the people training, coaching and instructing as well as working the horses for
competition. My instructor woke up the second day with a sore throat, which she described as feeling like strep throat. We
finally had a moment when she wasn't doing eight things at once, and I asked if I could tap for her throat.
She had the choice of doing the tapping on herself, or having me tap on her using the short-cut round of eight points.
She asked me to do the tapping. I had her tune in to her sore throat and I tapped one round on one side of her face and body,
ending on the top of the head, and the second round on the other side. I had her check in to the throat again.
I loved seeing her eyes getting round as she realized the pain was gone!
The word spread and I helped two other
young riders, one with a painful wrist joint and the other with sore thigh muscles. And, of course, I tapped on my own
horse to relieve the stress of being at a show and the strains of competition.
The next day, my friend/teacher's
sore throat was still feeling better and she said she'd found it easier to get up that morning.
Meridian tapping techniques are currently considered complementary health approaches, not mainstream
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